Thinking out loud again.

Who are they? Why do you have them? What significance do they have in your life? How much do you really know about they? Why are they your friend? What keeps them your friend?

It is funny how the mind works. Today I spent the day with a dear friend. Someone whom I am attracted to on many levels. I think she is beautiful, has intelligence, not afraid to experience the world and I just never know what she is going to say that just makes me laugh both inside and out. Then when we were driving back from seeing the Potter movie I was contemplating why we are friends with some people and asked her about a couple in particular.

This led me to further contemplation while we ate salmon and broccoli. I was still thinking about this on the drive home. I thought about the friends on my facebook page, in my blogs, myspace, those that are here and those that are distance, those I talk to daily and those that I speak to so less frequently.

I know most of my friends are women and I am alright with that. Those whom are in my friends list are those whom I actually consider a friend. But each and everyone of them has a different reason why, how and then it can evolve over time.

Maybe that is what appeals to us about some of the friends in that friendship is dynamic. It can change and evolve. We can lose a friend, we can gain a friend, we can take a friendship to different levels and then allow it to drift apart for a while. But if we hold someone in that special place of friendship and work on it we can keep them prevalent for the rest of our lives.

But in all of my friendships there are some fundamentals that I see. I see that aspect of trust, a level of intelligence and the ability to have a discussion when I decide that I want one (which is sporadic as I am much more of a thinker than I am a talker). I see that the people who do not mind me watching and listening to be my closest of friends. That allow me to help them when they need it and know that I will do whatever I can. I guess that is what my friend today was saying when she said that her really close girlfriend was someone she could be herself around...totally be herself.

I guess that is what holds true about those I call my friends. You are the people I can be myself around. I do not have to be someone else, rather I can just be me, and you are fine with that and accept me for whom I am.

Thinking out loud again.



Who are they? Why do you have them? What significance do they have in your life? How much do you really know about they? Why are they your friend? What keeps them your friend?